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información completa y en distintos idiomas presione la conexión anterior.
Si alguien se siente suicida
Si se siente
suicida ahora y necesita alguien con quien hablar:
presione aquí.
Helping a suicidal friend or relative
Be quiet and listen!
If someone is feeling depressed or
suicidal, our first response is to try to help. We offer advice, share our
own experiences, try to find solutions.
We’d do better to be quiet and listen.
People who feel suicidal don’t want answers or solutions. They want a safe
place to express their fears and anxieties, to be themselves.
Listening – really listening – is not easy.
We must control the urge to say something – to make a comment, add to a
story or offer advice. We need to listen not just to the facts that the
person is telling us but to the feelings that lie behind them. We need to
understand things from their perspective, not ours.
Here are some points to remember if you are
helping a person who feels suicidal.
What do people who feel suicidal
want?
Someone to listen.
Someone who will take time to really listen to them. Someone who won’t
judge, or give advice or opinions, but will give their undivided
attention.
Someone to trust.
Someone who will respect them and won’t try to take charge. Someone who
will treat everything in complete confidence.
Someone to care.
Someone who will make themselves available, put the person at ease and
speak calmly. Someone who will reassure, accept and believe. Someone who
will say, ‘I care.’
What do people who feel suicidal
not want?
To be alone. Rejection can
make the problem seem ten times worse. Having someone to turn to makes all
the difference. Just listen.
To be advised. Lectures
don’t help. Nor does a suggestion to ‘cheer up’, or an easy assurance that
‘everything will be okay.’ Don’t analyze, compare, categorize or criticize.
Just listen.
To be interrogated. Don’t
change the subject, don’t pity or patronize. Talking about feelings is
difficult. People who feel suicidal don’t want to be rushed or put on the
defensive. Just listen.
Nacimos con la habilidad de
tomar nuestras propias vidas. Cada año 1,000,000 de personas escogen esta
opción.
Para muchos que se
sienten suicidas, parece que no hay otra forma de librarse. La muerte describe
su mundo en ese momento y la fortaleza de sus sentimientos suicidas no deben
subestimarse, son reales y poderosos e inmediatos. No hay curas mágicas.
Pero también es cierto
que:
El sucidio es a
menudo una solución permanente a un problema temporal
Cuando estamos
deprimidos, tendemos a ver las cosas a través de una perspectiva muy
estrecha del momento presente. Una semana o un momento más tarde, las cosas
podrían parecer completamente diferentes
La mayoría de la
gente que alguna vez pensaron en matarse ellos mismos están ahora contentos
de estar vivos. Dicen que no querían terminar con sus vidas-sólo querían
parar el dolor
El paso más
importante es hablar con alguien. La gente que se siente suicida no deben
tratar de resolverlo solos. Deben buscar ayuda ahora.
Hable con famiia o amigos. Nada más hablar
con un miembro de la familia o un colega puede traer gran alivio.
Hable con un befriender. Alguna
gente no puede hablar con familia o amigos. Algunos encuentran más fácil
hablar con estraños. Hay centros
befriending centers en todo el mundo, con voluntarios que han sido
entrenados para escuchar. Si llamar es muy difícil, la persona puede enviar
un
email.
Hable con un doctor. Si alguien está
pasando por un período largo de sentirse bajo o suicida, el o ella podría
estar sufriendo de depresión clínica. Esta es una condición médica causada
por un desequilibrio químico, y puede usualmente ser tratada por un doctor
mediante receta de drogas y/o referido a un terapista. (dígame
más)
El tiempo es un
factor importante en "moverse", pero lo que sucede es que el tiempo también
importa. Cuando alguien se siente suicida, ellos deben hablar de sus
sentimientos inmediatamente.
When someone feels suicidal
If you are feeling suicidal right now and you need someone to talk to:
click here.
We are born with the ability to take our own lives. Each
year a million people make that choice. Even in societies where suicide is
illegal or taboo, people still kill themselves.
For many people who feel suicidal, there seems to be no other way out.
Death describes their world at that moment and the strength of their suicidal
feelings should not be under-estimated – they are real and powerful and
immediate. There are no magic cures.
But it is also true that:
Suicide is often a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
When we are depressed, we tend to see things through the very narrow
perspective of the present moment. A week or a month later, things may look
completely different.
Most people who once thought about killing themselves are now glad to be
alive. They say they didn’t want to end their lives – they just wanted to
stop the pain.
The most important step is to talk to someone. People who feel
suicidal should not try to cope alone. They should seek help NOW.
Talk to family or friends. Just talking to a family
member or a friend or a colleague can bring huge relief.
Talk to a befriender. Some people cannot talk to family
or friends. Some find it easier to talk to a stranger. There are
befriending centers all over the world, with volunteers who have been
trained to listen. If calling is too difficult, the person can send an
email.
Talk to a doctor. If someone is going through a longer
period of feeling low or suicidal, he or she may be suffering from clinical
depression. This is a medical condition caused by a chemical imbalance, and
can usually be treated by a doctor through the prescription of drugs and/or
a referral to therapy. (tell
me more).
Time is an important factor in ‘moving on’, but what happens in that time
also matters. When someone is feeling suicidal, they should talk about
their feelings immediately.
If you are feeling suicidal right now and you need someone to talk to:
click here
An estimated 1 million people kill themselves every year.
Many wouldn't if only they had someone to talk to.
We listen to people who are lonely, despairing or suicidal.
Listening saves lives.
Befrienders
Befrienders listen to people who are lonely, despairing or considering
suicide. They don’t judge them, don’t tell them what to do. They listen. That
may not sound much – but it can make the difference between life and death.
People who feel suicidal are often so focused on a particular problem or pain
that they find it difficult to see a way forward. Talking openly to a befriender,
in a safe and confidential environment, can help.
By listening to a suicidal person, a befriender helps them to listen to
themselves.
Befrienders International
Befrienders International is a network of 357 befriending centers world-wide.
These centers are run by trained volunteers and offer a service that is free,
non-judgmental and completely confidential. People are befriended by telephone,
in face-to-face meetings, by letter and by email.
Befrienders International was founded in 1974. It now has member centers in
41 countries and a
head office in London, England.
In addition to co-ordinating and developing the work of its member centers
around the world, Befrienders International supports and advises new and
existing centers and makes its expertise and experience available to other
agencies. It also runs programs to pioneer new approaches to suicide prevention.
The most exciting of these is
Reaching
Young Europe
